• March – The Pick of the Crop

    by  • March 28, 2012 • Pick of the crop

    Three Most Visited Blogs in March

     

    March No.1: Relationships make you happy

     Positive relationships with others make us happy. And as you will know only too well bad relationships make us unhappy. As indeed do good relationships going through a bad patch. So we need to get our relationships right if we want to be happy.

    We tend to have different levels of relationships with the people in our lives. For example, we have an inner circle of family and friends to whom we are close. In business we have bosses, colleagues and customers. And we make one-on-one contact with neighbours, service providers and other officials.

    It is not the number but the quality of your relationships that counts. The close long-standing ones can make you feel happier or indeed more miserable. So you need to put more work into them than into your other relationships. If they are well-managed they can be a rich source of gratification and joy that is good for your well-being.

    March No. 2: Must Read New Year Resolution Check-list

    WhatIsYourPreflightChecklistWhy Use New year Resolution Check-lists? Engineers use check-lists for large construction projects. Airline pilots use them to fly aircraft. And surgeons use them in complex operations, according to Atul Gawande.

    They have an easy to follow list of instructions for complex tasks. A New Year Resolution is not in the same league. So why  use check lists for them? Because they have a very high failure rate. And with the help of a check-list we can make a better New Year Resolution. One that we are more likely to keep.

    March No. 3: Get Wise To Yourself

    images-1We find the inner strength to deal with tragic issues. Horrible things like bankruptcy, divorce, serious illness and bereavement bring out the best in us. Faced with no escape we are wise enough to dig deep within ourselves to handle the really bad things in life.

    Yet little things get to us. Things like tailgaters, bad body odour, eating with the mouth open, rude shop assistants, unhelpful call centre staff, stepping in dog dirt, coughing without covering the mouth, slow internet connections and poor customer service. We all have a list of things that get under our skin. But are we wise enough to learn how to stop them making us unhappy?

    About

    We can use positive psychology to improve how we live our lives. So I love to share my understanding of it with others. To help them grow and flourish as I have. The posts on this blog set out to do just that. You need a lot of skill to make a relationship a happy one. So I write about relationship skills. Skills you can learn how to use in your own relationship. To keep it in good shape. To solve problems that may arise in it. And to improve the quality of your relationship. To make both of you happy.