• Strengths are the pick of the crop for July/ Aug/ Sept

    by  • October 15, 2012 • Pick of the crop

    The favourite posts of people who visited this site in July, August and September were: No. 1: Identify Your Personal Strengths, No. 2: Happiness: A How to Checklist, No 3: Worry make it one of your strengths and No. 4: Weakness management: A how to checklist.


    No. 1. Identify Your Personal Strengths

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     All of us depend on our personal strengths to advance our careers. We also use them to achieve personal fulfilment. And to manage our relationships. Yet very few of us know what our unique personal strengths are.

    This gap in our knowledge does not really matter very much if we are one of the lucky few who are content with our lives.  It does however matter a lot if you are even a little bit dissatisfied. Expect more from life. And want to change things for the better.

    Seligman(2003), claims that it is important to know what our strengths are. He also says that we need to use them regularly.   And those who consistently use them are happier, more productive, and more creative. They can perform high quality work. And even become healthier than those who mainly use their learnt strengths.  According to Linley (2010) our learnt strengths are the ones that we use but we do not enjoy. Because they de-energise us and are unsatisfying to use.

    No.2. Happiness: A How To Checklist

    by  • May 30, 2012 • FavouritesHappinessMust Read Checklists • 0 Comments

     happinessIncrease your happiness and well-being. By following the steps in this “How To Check-list”. These steps deal with your: 1. Happiness from pleasure, 2. Happiness from gratification, 3. Happiness from the Past, 4. Happiness about the Future, 5. Happiness in the present. As outlined in the work of Seligman (2001).

    Under each of these five headings it lists the actions for you take. These actions build on each other to form a cohesive learning experience. And you can tick off each of the actions you take as you work though the list. Which allows you to keep a record of the progress you make. And note where you left off and need to start again.

    No. 3. Worry: make it one of your strengths

    by  • May 16, 2012 • Building StrengthsFavouritesManaging Weaknesses • 1 Comment

    We all worry. And when we use it properly worry can be a strength. Because it can prevent us from making mistakes. Help us to deal with difficult situations. And it can stimulate us to take the actions we need to take control of our lives.

    In fact, our brain is programmed to worry. To sort out the relevance or irrelevance of new information. Which helps you to identify issues you need to respond to quickly. And those you would be better off to just ignore.

    You are also able to identify the 40% of worries that will not in fact happen. The 30% that have already happened. The 12% that you don’t need to worry about. The 10% that is unimportant. And the 8%  that actually happens. The 4% of which are beyond your control. And the key 4% that are within some if not all of your control.

    No. 4. Weakness management: A how to Checklist

    by  • July 25, 2012 • FavouritesManaging WeaknessesMust Read Checklists • 1 Comment

    weakness  It hard to know what to do about weakness. When ignored it just gets on with its business of spoiling things for us. And when we pay attention to it we become frustrated and lose heart.

    So we begin to fear that it will undermine us. Stop us from achieving our goals. Ruin our career and relationships.

    These fears cause us to deny it. Hide it from others. Hope that it will stay hidden. And not bring us crashing down to earth.

    The good news is that Buckingham (2007) tells us what we need to do to manage our weakness.  And this checklist presents his ideas as a set of action steps. Puts them in a learning sequence. That you can use to learn how to manage your weakness.





    We can use positive psychology to improve how we live our lives. So I love to share my understanding of it with others. To help them grow and flourish as I have. The posts on this blog set out to do just that. You need a lot of skill to make a relationship a happy one. So I write about relationship skills. Skills you can learn how to use in your own relationship. To keep it in good shape. To solve problems that may arise in it. And to improve the quality of your relationship. To make both of you happy.